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Homosexuality— matter of privacy

The Young Reporter (1995, October 05), 28(01), pp. 8.
記者: Vanessa Sit.
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By VANESSA SIT

HOMOSEXUALITY is only a small issue which was not accepted by this society, but I really do not care. It is a matter of privacy between two of us, we wouldn't hurt anyone,” said Ms Jackie Lau, a 29-year-old lesbian.

Ms Lau said she did not mind her friends knowing her sexual preference by chance. In public areas, she would walk hand in hand with her partner.

However, she would not take the initiative to open her identity to ordinary friends and colleagues.

“Everyone has prejudices, if all of my colleagues are heterosexuals, then I will bethe minority. Even if you have a good performance in your job, they will look down on you and will not promote you,” said Ms Lau.

“I do not want mv work to be affected. I have to think about my own interest and there is no point to tell others that I am a lesbian,” Ms Lau continued.

Ms Lau said she preferred to talk with Tom Boys, the male role in the lesbian circle, rather than Gees, the female role in the lesbian circle, since they would understand her best.

Sometimes, she would also talk to her gay friends. She said gay men would be more sensational and easier to communicate with. Besides, in the lesbian circle, her role is like a man, so they have common topics.

Ms Chris Chan, Ms Lau ‘ex-girlfriend’, dates with both gender.

“I love both men and women, but I love women more than men.”

She said the straight girls are attracted by Tom Boys because Tom Boys are more attentive and understand girls better than man.

But Ms Chan had faced pressure from her parents.

“When my parents knew that I date with a Tom Boy, it surprised them.”

“They do not let me go out at first. After I promised them I will marry a man, they relented,” said Ms Chan.

But he only regarded marriage as a mean to please her parents. She also jokingly proposed to marry a gay man, who has to please his parents too.

If there was a choice, she said, she would prefer to live with lesbians because men are not attentive enough.

“I enjoy the present moment. I do not think about the future, future is troublesome,” said she.

Hot-line services provider, Horizon, is one of the organization that gives support to help the homosexuals.

“Many of our clients will ask us the hot sites for the homosexuals and places where they can meet other homosexuals,” said Mr Daniel Kiang, the treasurer of Horizon.

Mr Kiang said some of the callers wondered whether they were homosexuals and would seek for confirmation.

He said some of them would feel depressed because they believed that they would not accept by the society, so they usually wanted the counsellors to give them support.

However, he said, “although our hot-line has been set up for three years, we understand that the percentage of success, to help the clients to solve the problem, is not so high.”

“If only through the phone, the things we can do are really limited. Most of them are unwilling to have a face-to-face talk, we just cannot help,” said Mr Kiang.

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